Dreaming about your ex-partner can cause a whole variety of emotions ranging from confusion and guilt to joy and wonder.
If you’ve been dreaming about your ex, especially during the pandemic, you’re not alone!
According to a recent study conducted by the AGY47 marketing agency, Brits are 25 times more likely to dream about their ex during the lockdown.
So, why do you keep dreaming about your ex, what does your dream mean and how can you make the dreams stop?
Here’s everything you need to know.
Why do you keep dreaming about your ex?
According to dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg, the meaning behind your dream depends on context.
Lauri told Metro.co.uk, ‘If it is a recent ex that is showing up in your dream, it is most likely because your subconscious is trying to help you process and understand the breakup so that you can come to peace with it and move on.’
She added: ‘If you are dreaming of an ex from some time ago, he or she may no longer be playing themselves but instead may represent something from that relationship that you may be recognising in your current life or in your current relationship.’
Dreaming about getting back together with an ex
Lauri Loewenberg believes dreams about reuniting with your ex might be a sign that you want them back.
Lauri explained to Metro.co.uk: ‘If it is a recent ex that you miss, it may simply be an expression of your desire to have them back in your life.
‘If not, then this could be an indication that there is something about that relationship or that time in your life that you are reconnecting with now.
She said that you need to ask yourself if there parts of your past relationship that you could bring into your current life or relationship.
Dreaming about your ex being unwell or dying
Having a dream involving illness or death can be upsetting and worrying.
But, according to Dream Moods, dreams like this might actually be a depiction of you letting your ex go and moving on.
Dream Mood states: ‘your feelings for your ex are completely dead now.
‘The dream is a metaphor of how you have let go of the past and are ready to move on and fully devote yourself to new relationships.’
Dreaming about falling in love with your first love
Regardless of how much time has passed, you might still be dreaming about your first love.
Lauri told Metro.co.uk, ‘The ex we dream about the most is our first love, and – believe it or not – our first love will continue to show up in our dreams from time to time for decades!
‘So years down the road, when you dream about them, it’s not that you want that person back but that you want that passion and excitement back.’
She added: ‘The first love is simply a gentle reminder that your current relationship may be getting a bit too routine and it is time to bring back the passion.’
So, if you keep dreaming about your first love, you could take it as a sign that you miss the feelings of exhilaration, passion or desire.
Dreaming about your abusive ex
According to Lauri, dreaming about an abusive ex reflects the scar they’ve left on you.
She explained to Metro.co.uk: ‘The relationship may be over and the ex no longer in your life but the psychological remnants may still be a problem and may be why you keep dreaming of that abusive ex.
‘The way they left you feeling about yourself will affect how you behave in and feel about current and future relationships.
‘Your subconscious keeps bringing the abusive ex back into your dreams to show you that he or she is still affecting you today.
‘If you have frequent dreams where you are reliving the abuse, that could be a sign of PTSD.’
Lauri said that these dreams are a sign that your subconscious is nagging you to get help so you can take your power back.
How can I stop dreaming about my ex?
Dream analyst Layne Dalfen told Oprah Mag that if you want to stop dreaming about your ex, you should just ask yourself to stop.
She instructs: ‘As you’re falling asleep, or even during the day, just say ‘You know what? I’ve had enough. I don’t want to dream about them anymore!’ and you probably won’t.’
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