I’VE always half wondered if D-Day – the first working Monday after New Year – is an invention peddled by lawyers looking for work.
The date is when warring spouses are supposedly most likely to divorce.The world's most high profile power couple look set to splitCredit: Getty
But boy, after the year we have all had, and as the prospect of another few months locked down together looms, it’s easy to see why now is the time the cracks start showing.
And it turns out that includes celebrities as well as the rest.
Last week it emerged the world’s most high-profile power couple, Kanye West and Kim Kardashian, AKA Kimye, look set to split.
I feel sad that this astonishing power couple are divorcing.
But while this has been a tricky time for us all, Kanye and Kim, who married in 2014, have other issues too.
It has been reported that Kanye is envious of how much time Kim has spent on prison reform and their four children, whose ages range from seven to one.
If it’s true, I guess it’s a reminder some men don’t like being upstaged when they are used to getting all the attention.
There has also been speculation Kanye wants the family to move to leafy Wyoming full-time, a prospect that does not appeal to Kim.
But while none of us knows what really goes on behind the closed doors of any marriage, I wonder if the real issue at the heart of a possible break-up is Kanye’s mental health troubles.
Those explosive Twitter posts about their marriage that he posted while in the grip of a bipolar episode last year must have been devastating to Kim.
But, as anyone who has lived with a person having mental health difficulties must know, they were surely the tip of the iceberg.It's believed Kanye's 'breakdown' put strain on their relationshipCredit: Getty Stella Tennant died last month after struggling with serious mental health issuesCredit: PA:Press Association
The kind of breakdown that Kanye appeared to suffer would put immense stress on even the strongest relationship.
I am thinking about the model Stella Tennant, who died last month.
Last week her family revealed her tragic death was due to suicide after she had struggled with serious mental health issues and her husband had recently left her after 20 years.
My heart goes out to her family and most of all her children after this reminder that celebrity, fame and fortune can’t protect people from life’s cruellest ravages.
If Kanye and Kim’s parting is inevitable, perhaps the most we can hope for is that they have a “good” break-up, although Kim reportedly hopes for full custody of the kids and is ready for things to get ugly.
But given that this is set to be one of the most high-profile divorces the world has seen in a while, I hope it doesn’t turn nasty for the sake of the kids, who are so young.
The tension between the “perfect family life” that they have projected over the years, plus the behind-the-scenes reality of Kanye’s mental illness, must surely have contributed to the stress that is causing them to divorce.
It is very hard to paint on a smile when life in the background is spiralling. And that must have affected Kim’s own mental health as well.
That said, the past year has been the most stressful for so many of us.
Spending a locked-down year in each other’s pockets would test the strongest relationship.
So anyone who has survived this pandemic so far with their marriage intact should congratulate themselves heartily.Kim reportedly hopes for full custody and is ready for things to get uglyCredit: Instagram
Jibe still rings in my ears
DURING her first week as the new presenter of Radio 4’s Women’s Hour, Emma Barnett was caught out by the old gaffe of forgetting her microphone was still switched on.
As a result, she was heard asking whether one of the guests the show had booked in was anti-Semitic.Women's Hour host Emma Barnett was caught out when she forgot her microphone was still on
I know all too well how it feels to be on the receiving end of comments by someone who thinks they cannot be heard.
I remember very well what Richard Keys said after walking away from his job as Sky’s football anchorman.
He quit after claiming “dark forces” were at work in the sexism scandal that had already cost fellow presenter Andy Gray his job (Gray was sacked after a video clip showed him making inappropriate remarks to presenter Charlotte Jackson).
Although Keys apologised for making disparaging remarks about female assistant referee Sian Massey, he was later overheard talking about me when he thought the microphone was off.
He said: “See charming Karren Brady this morning complaining about sexism? Yeah. Do me a favour, love.”
How condescending is that? Needless to say, I have never forgotten it.
And I doubt I ever will.
Clap for carers is step back
I DON’T know about you, but I couldn’t quite bring myself to join the return of Clap For Carers on Thursday night.
Not because I do not think the NHS staff and carers across the country are doing the most fantastic job, because they are and I am proud of them and grateful. They are all heroes.Annemarie Plas, the woman behind Clap for Carers, said she was targeted with personal abuse and threatsCredit: Rex Features
But it’s partly because of what happened to Annemarie Plas, 37, who came up with the weekly ritual that ran during the first lockdown for ten weeks at 8pm on Thursdays.
She said she’d since been targeted with personal abuse and threats against herself and her family.
Not quite the spirit of the thing, is it?
I’m also aware some NHS staff have hit out at the return of Clap For Carers, saying they would rather people respect the national lockdown. While others pointed out they would prefer a pay rise to a clap.
The main reason is that I cannot bear that Groundhog Day feeling that goes with doorstep clapping, which we did for ten long weeks.
While it felt right back then, it now feels like a retrograde step.
Shades of grey on rules
OF the many ways people are finding to break lockdown rules, it’s not surprising we reserve a particularly furious wrath for those who do so to get their hair done.
And it’s galling to hear that actress Priyanka Chopra had a hair colouring appointment at a salon this week using the get-out clause that it was for a film role.Priyanka Chopra had a hair colouring appointment this week, claiming it was for a film roleCredit: Splash News
Given that officers are stopping people just walking down the street to ask them where they are going, that feels a bit unfair.
Admittedly this is added to by the fact that I’m still recovering from the schoolboy error I made in not getting my hair done during that small window when it was allowed.
As a result, my hair is long and grey. I still wouldn’t break the rules though.
I’m sorry to say that it is £7.99 home dye for me until March.
Let Cat be a lesson to you
I’M sending strength and support to all the parents who have got through the first week of home-schooling, round two.
And I am sure TV host Cat Deeley is by no means the only one who has had a few moments of madness.Cat Deeley said she was 'losing her mind' stuck at homeCredit: Getty
The mum of two shared footage on Instagram this week of her bopping her head and “shaking her tail feather” while trying to home-school her son, Milo, four.
She said she was “losing my mind” while stuck indoors.
The reality is kids are meant to go to school. And parents are meant to have a break from them, however beloved their offspring are.
Most of us would seriously struggle with suddenly having to teach our kids while holding down the day job.
This is a good time to remind you all that, yes, this might be one of the most challenging chapters of our lives. But this too shall pass.
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